Multitasking, too much to do with too little time, the never-ending to-do list, on a fast-paced treadmill and with no time for yourself. Does this resonate with you?
The art of being present sounds foreign and unachievable
You get to the end of your day feeling tired and exhausted wondering where did it go. Only to start all over again the next day. It feels never-ending. And it is unless you change something. Something has to give. And that is your tight hold on your reins. You need to stop micromanaging your day. Stand back and breathe slackening the hold on your reigns. All you are doing is creating more stress for yourself and less enjoyment in your life. And what would you prefer to have more of?
Fun, happiness, laughter, I am sure. And that is what the art of being present gives you. It gives you a sense of freedom and to unfold into a bath of lightness and being. You feel soothed, nourished and calm. Your days are pleasant and enjoyable. And even if something unpleasant crops up, which it inevitably will, you know how to handle it. You don’t let yourself get so uptight and het up as you used to. Because you know it will pass. And you have the tools on hand to work through it.
Knowing how to be present
The art of being present is knowing when to do and when to be. Life is about mastering the art of being in our doing world. It is a practice and takes time. However, the rewards are huge. You create harmony in your life whereby you know when to do and when to be. It is all about being in tune with your body, mind, and soul. And taking the time to connect to your intuition, your feminine, and your spirit. It is all there for you to tap into to get guidance and understanding of who you are and how to be.
When you are in your head and out of your body, the quality of your attention is compromised. You are distracted and fragmented. Basically not grounded. When you feel connected and grounded to not only yourself but to what is going on around you, it has a big impact on your physical, mental and spiritual well-being. I talked about this in ‘Being grounded’ blog a few weeks ago.
When you are grounded you are present. And of course, when you are present you are grounded. You won’t know yourself. And the best way I find to bring into the moment is through meditation and mindfulness. These skills support you in bringing you out your head and busyness of your thoughts and back into your body and in the present moment. You learn how to focus on one task at a time, on an object to keep your mind still and open, and on your breath to connect you to your body.
how being present offsets the negative
Instead of feeling:
- agitated and on edge, you feel calm and balanced
- negative, you feel positive
- unhappy and down, you feel happy and full of the joys of life
- unworthy, you feel deserving
- inhibited and holding yourself back, you get out there and have fun being spontaneous
- foggy, you get clarity on how you want to feel and what you want and need to do
- unappreciated and taken for granted, you feel acknowledged and appreciated
- tired and exhausted, you feel vital and energetic, there is a bounce in your step
- full of aches and pains, your body feels pain-free
- overwhelmed with your lot, you take it all in your stride
- all over the place, you feel grounded and present
You will find that you make fewer mistakes and are less grumpy. Rather than reacting and snapping when someone asks you to do something unexpected, you respond with a calm voice. You know how to set your boundaries and say no or not now. Your connections with loved ones, friends and colleagues strengthen. There is fun in your day, smiles, and laughter. You enjoy capturing and remembering all those special moments. At the end of the day, you feel satisfied and delighted with what you have achieved. There is a lovely sense of being present ready for a good night’s sleep. The world is on your side and you feel part of it.
Take some time each day to become present. It is an art and it takes time. Keep persisting to make it part of your life. Over time you will notice how you feel more at ease, supported, and in control of your life. You no longer shut yourself down to protect yourself. You feel open and accepting of each day and what it brings. There is a sense of joy when you wake up every morning as you look forward to your day. You feel released from the stress, dread and heaviness of purely doing. You feel alive and receptive. And you want to experience life fully.
Here are some short guided meditations to help you:
Enjoy creating space and ease of being to live life with grace, love, and acceptance. If you want to delve deeper into the art of being present, get my Mindful Living, Mindful Being programme. For six weeks, at the same time in the morning, you will receive twice weekly emails full of guided meditations, tips, and information. They’re designed to keep you motivated on your journey to becoming mindful.
‘The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook’.
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Chantal Vanderhaeghen is an intuitive guide, small business owner, creator of an international skincare brand, passionate philanthropist and meditation, reiki, tapping and mindfulness teacher. She works with women ready to make changes, shatters perceptions of beauty and perfection, and inspires people ready to become mindful entrepreneurs. She lives with her talented man in the Perth Hills and can be found online at www.unfoldyoufreedom.com.au
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