What is it about the power of impatience that drives us to constantly do? It is so easy to be impatient when things don’t go our way. When we don’t get the response we want. When we don’t get heard, acknowledged, seen, or appreciated. This creates frustration in us and thus impatience. It also is a sign of lack of faith and trust in ourselves and other.
Impatience is all about fear.
When we are in fear we make rash decisions. We don’t think things through fully. We reply impetuously to what people say. And we send out emails without thought. Then wonder why we get the responses we do.
I was looking up the definition of impatience and got slightly waylaid which is what I am doing here. I came across a few examples of impatience in the bible, even though I don’t practice any form of religion. However, I was intrigued. So, I had a look to see what it said as impatience was already being exercised in those days.
Here is a quote from the Bible, verse James 5:7-8 ESV ‘Be patient, therefore, brothers, until the coming of the Lord. See how the farmer waits for the precious fruit of the earth, being patient about it until it receives the early and the late rains. You also, be patient. Establish your hearts, for the coming of the Lord, is at hand.’ So this is not a new phenomenon in our over busy and doing world.
Impatience is a result of the fear of missing out
So we force things to happen. Well, we try at least, without much success most of the time. We push and push to get results, an answer, an outcome because we lack faith in ourselves and others. We can’t allow things to unfold in their own time, in case …………. In case of what? Only you can fill that part out as each of us has different reasons.
I know for me it was about being excluded, overlooked, missing out, and forgetting to do things that felt so important at the time. It made me needy, prickly, and irritable. I got easily frustrated and ‘impatient’. It has taken me a while to simply surrender and let go trusting it will all work out in the end. As is stated in A Course In Miracles: ‘Let it be what it is.’
It is about surrendering and trusting in something bigger than yourself. For me, it was about letting go of control and allowing events to create their own momentum. There is definitely another force involved here when we can step aside and give them space to unfold in good time.
‘Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.’ Lao Tsu
You still have to have your hand in there to get things started. Then there comes a time to hand it over and have faith in the process of it all happening in the way it is meant to be. And it may not the way you thought or wanted. And it is often something way better, even if it does not feel like it at the time.
Have patience and have faith in all you and in all that you are.
Chantal Vanderhaeghen is an intuitive guide, small business owner, creator of an international skincare brand, passionate philanthropist and meditation, reiki, tapping and mindfulness teacher. She works with women ready to make changes, shatters perceptions of beauty and perfection, and inspires people ready to become mindful entrepreneurs. She lives with her talented man in the Perth Hills and can be found online at www.unfoldyoufreedom.com.au
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