Let go and surrender control

What? I can hear you from here. Letting go of control is one of the best things you can do for yourself. You open yourself to so much more in your life that you don’t realise you have been missing out on. When you are hanging on to control, you close down and narrow your world. You are holding on tight and keeping life close to your chest lacking in confidence to be truly yourself. This can be due to worry, fear, lack of trust and feelings of unworthiness.

let go and see what happens

When you take the time to truly let go and surrender your life to what is, you are welcoming in love, joy, freedom, peace, connection, creativity and this new lease on life. That is: energy. When you hold on tightly you expend so much energy. You feel exhausted and constantly tired. It doesn’t leave much room for fun with your loved ones and friends.

However, letting go can make you feel vulnerable and ironically, out of control. Being mindful and sitting quietly with yourself, gives you the time and space to look at what it means to you and where did this need come from. It is about being honest with yourself. When you do so, it can trigger ‘stuff’ for you.

compassionate and kind with yourself

So be compassionate and kind with yourself as you do so. It will take time for you to know how to let go and what it will look life for you. Be patient and you will reap the rewards. It took me a while to admit that I could be controlling when all I felt was that I was being controlled and manipulated to being who I wasn’t and doing things I didn’t want to do. I had to reverse engineer all of this, so to speak, to see what I was also doing to create these situations. It can be painful. There may need to be lots of forgiveness towards yourself and letting go.

Once I surrendered to choosing to have trust and faith in the process, that is when life started to change. I was able to be willing to make the necessary changes to create a life free of negative control and full of confidence. That is control that closed me down, rather than opened me up to a beautiful, loving and flowing life.

begin to have fun

What you will find is a sweetness to your life. Life will happen around you in the way you want it to. You can consciously make decisions without being controlled or controlling. You let go of outcomes and begin to have fun being who you are truly meant to be.

how to let go

 This takes time: by trusting yourself in all that you do. Be mindful of your thoughts, what triggers your need to control and be controlled. Accept yourself and others for who they are, even though you may not like all that they do.  Start changing your mindset about your life. You can’t always be positive. That is a misnomer. However, becoming aware of how you perceive life makes the world of difference.

This relates back to the Solar Plexus chakra and standing in your full power, find an affirmation that sits well with you and begin to work towards it. It must be one you believe in and feel in your heart. Here are a few examples: I am calm and relaxed to feel confident. I allow myself and others to be exactly as they are. This is the moment I take my power back and control my life the way I want. I can do whatever I want to and will do. As you do this enjoy the colour yellow associated with the third chakra. Wear and eat something yellow. Use the following essential oils to help you with any anxiety that may arise: bergamot and lavender.

Begin to feel the freedom of being consciously in control of your life and having lots of fun.

If this resonates and you feel unsure how to do this on your own, I am there to guide you. There are various ways you can do this. Here is the link to my webpage to see what would suit you best.


meet chantal

Chantal Vanderhaeghen is an intuitive guide, small business owner, creator of an international skincare brand, passionate philanthropist and meditation, reiki, tapping and mindfulness teacher. She works with women ready to make changes, shatters perceptions of beauty and perfection, and inspires people ready to become mindful entrepreneurs. She lives with her talented man in the Perth Hills and can be found online at www.unfoldyoufreedom.com.au



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