‘How can we trump those imperfections and overcome them?’, I hear you crying out loud.

And that is the challenge: to not allow our feelings of ‘imperfection’ stop us from leading perfectly fabulously fulfilling lives.

Only a couple of weeks ago I was reminded of this when I fell in a heap after trying to be perfect, so as not to appear imperfect. Complicated, I know. I was so busy doing and pretending to myself and others that I ended up in absolute overwhelm instead, because I had not listened to my body.

I had outwitted myself still thinking I could be perfect and do everything. And I mean absolutely everything, despite feeling tired, overwrought and snapping at those around me. Thus being less than perfect.

Then I read this.

‘Believing you can be perfect is the fatal imperfection’. (quote by Richard Strozzi-Heckler). I had to read this a few times to let it sink in to fully understand what it meant. How true is that? So for all those years I had it the wrong way round. By trying so hard to be perfect, I was actually being imperfect. Take a moment to get your head around that.

Now, take a moment to let this sink in; ‘I’m perfect the way I am.’ How did that feel? Uncomfortable? Impossible? No way? Yes, way. It is time for us to start seeing ourselves as perfect for exactly who we are and trump that concept of imperfection. We have so much history and childhood messages to sift through before we can get to that place of loving ourselves warts and all.

It saddens me so much to see so many of us struggling with trying to be perfect with our ‘imperfections’. We compare ourselves to others, we are compared to in the media, and we are compared to in our families. No wonder, it is difficult to let it all go to allow our perfectly imperfect beautiful selves shine in our world.

Striving to be perfect stops us from doing what we really want to do.

It holds us back from being who we really are. It stymies us as we fear being exposed for the flawed and inadequate person we really are (in our heads, of course). Trying to constantly be perfect and hiding being imperfect, we trump ourselves. It is that simple.

We dwell on it all for so long as to what could go wrong, how will I look, that we find all sorts of excuses to stop us from doing, getting out there and making a difference in this world.

Stop now.

And here is a method I love using which is simple and easy to remember to help you do that.

It is the Sedona Method created by Hale Dwoskin. Read more here if you wish.

Focus on the issue you want to let go of and then ask yourself the following questions: What am I feeling right now? Could I welcome and allow it? Could I let it go?  Would I let it go? Am I willing to let it go? When?

Remember to say this to yourself: I’m perfect the way I am.



meet chantal

Chantal Vanderhaeghen is an intuitive guide, small business owner, creator of an international skincare brand, passionate philanthropist and meditation, reiki, tapping and mindfulness teacher. She works with women ready to make changes, shatters perceptions of beauty and perfection, and inspires people ready to become mindful entrepreneurs. She lives with her talented man in the Perth Hills and can be found online at www.unfoldyoufreedom.com.au



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