When you hear the words life is a constant battle does it make you feel heavy? Do you shy away? Recoil? When deep down you say yes it is.
Life doesn’t need to be a constant battle
Love this quote by Florence Scovel Shinn (a wise author from the1920s): “most people consider life a battle, but it is not a battle, it is a game”. It took me a moment to get what that meant. A game? Life is not a game. It is hard work. A challenge. And at times downright difficult.
As I probed some more, I began to see that it has all to do with our mindset. We can see life as a constant battle or as a way to learn and enjoy ourselves, despite the trials and tribulations.
What we think we become. Words have power. Even the word battle. Pause for a moment, take a deep breath and tune in to how your body is feeling when you hear the words life is a constant battle. Do you feel heavy, weary, depressed, or downhearted?
I do. It makes me feel life is drudgery and is that all there is for me? My body slumps, contracts, feels tense, and I feel down in the dumps.
Nothing feels worthwhile. In addition, it can all feel pointless. So many of us don’t realise we are doing constant battle with life in our heads, hearts and bodies.
We give ourselves conflicting information. We say one thing and do another. In addition, we drive ourselves crazy mulling things over in our minds with shoulds, coulds, maybe’s and what ifs. Exhausting.
how do you change your outlook on life from constant battle to it being a game?
You change your mindset. It’s that simple yet that difficult. Easier said than done. As you step out of battle you start to see where you can make changes in your life. Where you can have fun. And life becomes this joyful game.
You begin to pay attention to the words you say. The effect they have on you. And they will contribute to the positive changes you want in life.
However, you need to feel and believe them. If you don’t they are not going to be effective. You are not going to feel much change. It takes courage and time to change. To get some ideas on how to do this read more on my blog: Do positive affirmations work?
Remember what you give out, you receive. So if you fear life, it will bring you events to feel fearful. If you imagine the worst, that is what will happen. You keep repeating this pattern until one day you wake up and go no more. Enough is enough.
You have to hit your own rock bottom to get you out of being in constant battle with yourself and life. Before you begin to turn the tide.
That adage of seeing the glass half full rather than half empty is so true. Which would you rather see?
Once you make the decision to turn your life into fun and a game, you begin to see life in a whole new way. With possibilities. With ease. Delight. Joy. Excitement.
What can you do to change your mindset to one of fun?
- Take the time to observe your thoughts, see how negative they are, then begin to turn them around. See what can go right, rather than what can go wrong.
- Stop waiting for the time to be right. Go for it. Dance in the rain. Make a mistake. And have fun in the process knowing you gave it your best shot and got a bit wet! I haven’t failed, I’ve just found 10,000 ways it does not work. – Thomas Edison
- See plenty of moments of joy, even in your darkest moments. I did this a couple of years ago when I was in intense fear with my partner’s health. This gave me a sense of normalcy and grounding when I was off thinking the worst.
- When you fall, pick yourself up again. It’s too easy to stay down. To feel like a misery. That becomes our comfort zone and keeps us small and in constant battle. Fall down seven times and stand up eight. – Japanese Proverb
- Acknowledge and accept when you are having a down day. When everything around you seems to be falling apart at the seams. Once you do that it helps take you out of the intensity of that feeling and creates some space to see that you can still move forward with courage and determination.
- Tomorrow is another day, You have a choice: either you can wake up with the glass half empty or leap out of bed knowing your glass is half full and you can do things differently today.
life is transient
It’s good to keep reminding yourself that nothing in your life is permanent. Everything is transient, even the good things, of course. Life is forever changing no matter how much we want to hold on to feel safe and comfortable.
It will throw us the most unexpected challenges. You can either sink or swim. I know I initially sank as I took in the enormity of what had happened as mentioned above. It was all too much to bear. However, slowly each day we could see there was light at the end of the tunnel. And today was today. Not tomorrow.
Inclusion, it’s up to you how you see your life. It is how you react to your battles that determines your life and how much joy you get from it. You can either stay in battle or get out and fun playing your game.
Start making some time to have fun. Be spontaneous. Start doing small things differently and gradually work your way up to bigger things. This gives you courage and a boost to keep getting up when you get knocked down.
And it helps to keep you see your glass half full rather than half empty.
Listen to this guided meditation to tune into how you feel about your life.
Love you to share this with anyone you think would benefit from these ideas. And leave a comment with your thoughts. As there is always more we can learn from each other.
Chantal Vanderhaeghen is an intuitive guide, small business owner, creator of an international skincare brand, passionate philanthropist and meditation, reiki, tapping and mindfulness teacher. She works with women ready to make changes, shatters perceptions of beauty and perfection, and inspires people ready to become mindful entrepreneurs. She lives with her talented man in the Perth Hills and can be found online at www.unfoldyoufreedom.com.au
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