pushing through fears
Well, it is so interesting to see what comes up after writing about the initial fears of abseiling. Not what you think. I thought it was going to be mainly about my abject fear of heights (I have already faced some of my fears skydiving for Breast Cancer Care WA). Now, I am seeing there is way more to it than meets the eye. However, the fear of heights is what most people understand. That is considered normal and logical. Anything else is out of the realms of possibility, unreasonable or even weird.
Why is it we hide our fears from ourselves as well as everyone else? Why is it we are not allowed to fall apart and feel fear? No, fear is not rational. And at times it is outright illogical. However, it is very real at the time. As it is said fear is an acronym for ‘false evidence appearing real.’ Fear is just that: an illusion. It is something we fabricate in our minds and make it real. And it can stay with us for life, particularly if we do not do anything about it.
And we all have very different fears. What is fearful for one person is not for another. This can make it difficult to articulate and for another to understand as they cannot relate to that at all. So it is easier to keep quiet about our fear. It is simpler not to even acknowledge to ourselves. It is easier to pretend IT does not exist at all. However, there are times when IT holds up back from doing things we really really want to do. Then how do we explain that to someone? Avoidance. We avoid IT at all times, going out of our way to put ourselves into any situation where IT could raise its ugly head.
an example of fear
Here is an example. When I skydived for Breast Cancer Care WA, I found that most people loved it and wanted to do it again. And I did not feel that at all. I had an awful experience which I felt too embarrassed to admit as I did not understand what had happened to me. All I knew was that I felt traumatised all the way down and was so relieved to get my feet back onto terra firma. I pretended to all and sundry how fantastic it had been.
Only a few weeks later as the adrenaline high was fading and I was able to sit back and tune into the fear without feeling fearful, I realised that the experience of actually jumping out of the plane into clouds and feeling very disorientated took me back to two separate traumatic experiences in my life. What a shock that was! And again how could I tell anyone this as it was so not relatable to skydiving? I felt so embarrased and awkward. And it was so real for me. It had nothing to do with logic.
And I have given myself one more challenge. I have raised the minimum fundraiser amount to $2000 from $500. HelpMe to HelpChildren. Click here if you wish to donate and by part of this journey from the comfort of your couch. I get that.
Until next time. Namaste.
Chantal Vanderhaeghen is an intuitive guide, small business owner, creator of an international skincare brand, passionate philanthropist and meditation, reiki, tapping and mindfulness teacher. She works with women ready to make changes, shatters perceptions of beauty and perfection, and inspires people ready to become mindful entrepreneurs. She lives with her talented man in the Perth Hills and can be found online at www.unfoldyoufreedom.com.au
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