from my heart

This is an unedited blog from my heart. It is raw. It is real. And It is written as it is for me at the moment. It may resonate with your right now. Or it may not. It is scary bearing your Soul to the world. And it is also cathartic.

I am not alone. You are not alone. We are not alone.

We need to talk. Furthermore, we need to share. We need to know it is OK to have moments of feeling inadequate. Admitting it is a sign of strength, not of weakness. It is a sign of taking responsibility for how it is right now, not how it ‘should’ be.

On the surface, you are strong, coping, getting on in life, and all is going well. On the surface you are and you believe you are. You are swimming along nicely going with the tide and feeling excited that life is great. There is lots happening and you feel you are on top of it all. You bounce out of bed looking forward to what the day will bring feeling confident, bright and cheery.

Little signs are there

There are little signs showing up that perhaps all is not as it seems. That it is time to step back to rest and restore. You ignore them because they do not fit into what you are doing and how you are portraying yourself to yourself and to the world. All is bright and shiny. You keep telling yourself this. Because it is easier to do so.

You don’t want to go there again. You don’t want to be seen as weak and unprofessional. And you don’t want to admit you need help, support, a kind word or two or a hug.

You keep on trucking because everyone else is doing so well. They have it all together according to social media. You begin to feel like a failure because you don’t feel like that. And so it goes on and on. It is like being on a merry-go-round you cannot get off. Logically, you know that you are not alone. Emotionally, you are sinking into a deep sinkhole. At first, it is slow. Then it speeds up. And wham. You wake up one morning and you wonder what on earth has happened.

The day doesn’t seem bright at all. You don’t want to bounce out of bed. It is all an effort. Seemingly overnight your world view has changed.

i am strong

You know what you need to do you. And you berate yourself because you can’t or that you didn’t tune in earlier. That you need to go and seek help. However, your voice keeps saying: I am strong, I am independent, I can do this on my own, I can’t put others out for me, and I feel guilty for taking up their precious time. However, I would for them.

It is time for us to wake up to ourselves and listen to our bodies, minds, and souls. They are telling us to relax, surrender and let go for a while. We can’t keep on going and run on empty. We can’t keep pushing ourselves until it is too late. It is time for us to give to ourselves first.

It is a sign of courage and self-care when you can say to yourself: that is it, time to surrender and withdraw for a while. To be with yourself to rejuvenate and reconnect to your sacredness. That is a sign of you stepping into your power and magic. I still need to tell myself this from time to time. And that it is all going to be OK. Keep telling yourself that. And share. Share your story, how you are feeling, and what is happening for you. This creates a sense of belonging and togetherness. And above all strength.

Keep unfolding into your powerful and confident selves. It helps with the healing for yourself and others.

Namaste to you all from my beautiful tender soul to yours.


meet chantal

Chantal Vanderhaeghen is an intuitive guide, small business owner, creator of an international skincare brand, passionate philanthropist and meditation, reiki, tapping and mindfulness teacher. She works with women ready to make changes, shatters perceptions of beauty and perfection, and inspires people ready to become mindful entrepreneurs. She lives with her talented man in the Perth Hills and can be found online at



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