Remember the power of having fun as a child. Giggling at anything and everything. Jumping in puddles. Throwing snowballs. Creating sand castles to bash them down again. What fun! And that is what spontaneity is all about.
the power of having fun
As our lives have become so structured and dictated by to do lists, most of us have lost sight of having fun and enjoying spontaneous moments. Have you giggled with someone for no apparent reason? Have you dropped something you were meant to do and just did something just because? No? I hear you. In this world of doing, it is so easy to forget to be: to be spontaneous.
In a way, our lives have been hijacked by our daily appointments and task lists. Furthermore, we have begun to identify ourselves with our lists. And sadly, we don’t even realise that this is what has happened and how they are affecting our lives
A while ago, I wrote a blog on ‘how you are more than your to do list’. What I realised was that they hold us back. We contract ourselves from our fun loving sides, rather than expanding into it. I don’t know about you, but I have lived by my to do lists for years. It made me feel safe. It gave me a sense of accomplishment. Yet at the same time, I felt overwhelmed, frustrated, and with a niggling sense of failure as it never seemed to end. Ringing any bells yet?
Take a moment right now to think of a time you had pure unadulterated fun. And without feeling guilty and ‘I should be doing’. Anything surface for you?
why being spontaneous is great for your health
Each and every day we are so scheduled to the nth degree. Check your diary now and see how it makes you feel. Do you feel gagged? Stressed when you look at all you do? Overwhelmed? And unhappy and resentful? Often, we don’t even realise this is what we are feeling as we are so distracted by doing.
When you do something spontaneous is opens you up to fun, joy and happiness. It saddens me to see so many of us caught up in leaving no room for fun. At times, I still have to schedule time for fun as I get so caught up in both my businesses and what I should, could be and having to do. Being so restricted in what we do we stymie creativity, flexibility, happiness, well-being and flow. We don’t feel free, light and relax. And that is what life is all about – having fun as well as being serious and responsible. It is about finding harmony in all that we do.
what to do
To start with making a play date in your diary (without feeling guilt of any sort!). Either by yourself, with your family or a great friend. This sounds illogical when I am talking about being spontaneous. However, this will get you started. So yes, you are planning time to have fun. However, what you are going to do in that time is be spontaneous. Again, you may like to decide already what you are going to do, ie go to the cinema, for a walk along the beach, paint, dancing, reading a novel, a long lunch or have a stroll in the city window shopping. Or you just leave it open and go with the flow.
Playing it by ear is another great way of being spontaneous. Doing something spontaneous that hasn’t been pre-planned as long as you are not shying away from things you need to do. This can be a form of distraction when you are not wanting to do something.You are less stressed when something doesn’t quite go to plan. You don’t let your life go out of control and into a spin. And it makes it easier to deal with the unexpected. This way of being can take so much stress and overwhelm out of your life. I do find this difficult, playing it by ear, as I like to have things planned as it makes me feel safe. So I am learning this one as I write this.
When you can play it by ear it has a knock on effect. You become less stressed when something doesn’t quite go to plan. You don’t let your life go out of control and into a spin. And it makes it easier to deal with the unexpected. This way of being can take so much stress and overwhelm out of your life. I do find this difficult, playing it by ear, as I like to have things planned as it makes me feel safe. So I am learning this one as I write this.
Improvise. If something doesn’t go according to plan, see what else you can do. Often we freeze and go blank when a curly is thrown at us. Learning to improvise pulls on all your resources and strengths. And it gives you a sense of achievement and confidence.
Start now. Start small. Make a date. Create the time. Break your routine. Go with the flow by taking small steps. Change your routine, eg take another route to work or wear something different (if you wear black add some colour). Start embracing mystery. Call an old friend for a chat now. Don’t wait. Be open to unexpected joys. Say yes to something that you would normally say no to. Do away with your phone and social media for an hour or two. Then even for a day. Go for a walk in the rain, along the beach or around your neighbourhood. You will be amazed at what you will see, find and meet. Smell those roses. See colour and beauty all around you. Listen to my guided meditation.
Above all, have fun!
Always believe that something beautiful is about to happen.
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Chantal Vanderhaeghen is an intuitive guide, small business owner, creator of an international skincare brand, passionate philanthropist and meditation, reiki, tapping and mindfulness teacher. She works with women ready to make changes, shatters perceptions of beauty and perfection, and inspires people ready to become mindful entrepreneurs. She lives with her talented man in the Perth Hills and can be found online at www.unfoldyoufreedom.com.au
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