I am writing this as I work through a now rare anxiety attack. I want you to know you are not alone if you have them. And there are techniques to support you through anxious times. This is my experience only and how I deal with it. It is important to seek professional help, which I do (don’t feel ashamed), to help you through.

definition of anxiety

‘A state of apprehension and fear resulting from the anticipation of a threatening event or situation’. ‘An uncomfortable feeling of nervousness or worry about something that is happening or might happen in the future’.

Now that I understand what anxiety is all about, I can see how there is no logic to being anxious. It comes from emotions. And that doesn’t mean it does not feel very real when it hits you. Because right at the moment it is real, no matter how much you tell yourself to ‘get over it’.

What I have found has helped by working with a psychologist, a wholistic GP, meditation and tapping is to understand the triggers and symptoms.

symptoms of anxiety

Physical: panic attacks, hot and cold flushes, racing heart, tightening of the chest, quick breathing, restlessness, or feeling tense, wound up and edgy

Psychological: excessive fear, worry, catastrophizing, or obsessive thinking

Behavioural: avoidance of situations that make you feel anxious which can impact on study, work or social life

I found these on Beyond Blues’ website that gives support for depression and anxiety. As everyone is different, it is worth getting help. This helped me tremendously when I had a name / diagnosis as it meant I am not going insane. It gives me something to work with. There is a reason why I was feeling like this – menopause and PSTD. In addition, what helps me is being aware of the triggers and reactions, so I can get a handle on it before it blows out fully. Because when I didn’t understand what was happening and why, I found it hard to get a handle on it and I spun out of control. Now, it is a matter of going with it, not resisting and relaxing into it. An oxymoron, I know.

Anxiety can creep up on you. One minute you are fine, the next you aren’t. Or you can go into full blown anxiety quickly. It can be triggered for no apparent reason or a completely obvious one. Today, I am aware why I am being triggered. My partner is going on an amazing trip for 10 days and I am going to be on on my own.

Logically, I know I am going to be alright. I love our home where I feel safe. In addition, I enjoy my own company. I have plenty of friends around inviting me for dinner. Yet, I am feeling anxious.

tools to support you

There are so many ways to support yourself. It is important that you find what is best for you. Here are some ideas that I use.

Acceptance: What I find helps me is a meditation technique called ‘naming, acknowledging, and accepting’. Once you identify that you are anxious it makes a difference. It reduces the intensity levels. Then you acknowledge that you are anxious as this takes you out of denial and resistance. Finally, you accept the fact that you are anxious. I do this as many times as I need.

Tapping: This is an easy tool to use anywhere anytime. Again, when you tap as you are going into being anxious, it helps reduce the intensity. I don’t necessarily do a whole round as that can feel too much. I tap on one spot only. Here is a peak into how tapping works for a programme I am creating for you.

Self Care: Make sure you get enough sleep, eat well, exercise and take time out to do something kind for yourself. I am burning essential oils, keeping warm, and going to do some colourful artwork.

Laugh: there is nothing better than a good laugh. Be with someone you trust and laugh. I am also writing a blog about the benefits of smiling which I will be posting in the next couple of weeks. Start smiling now and feel the difference.

Keep going: know this too will pass. Relax into it and present in your daily life’s activities. This is important. I know for me when I stop and think, it exacerbates the anxiety. Remember, what you resist, persists. So I am mindful and aware that I am anxious. However, I don’t let it get the better of me and my day.

Breathe: Through connecting to your breath you are connecting to your body, mind and soul. You are creating love, peace and joy in your life

Find what is best for you. And start living again. Anxiety may be in your life, but it doesn’t need to dictate your life.


meet chantal

Chantal Vanderhaeghen is an intuitive guide, small business owner, creator of an international skincare brand, passionate philanthropist and meditation, reiki, tapping and mindfulness teacher. She works with women ready to make changes, shatters perceptions of beauty and perfection, and inspires people ready to become mindful entrepreneurs. She lives with her talented man in the Perth Hills and can be found online at www.unfoldyoufreedom.com.au



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