Therapy sessions are personalised and each session will be different. How they work also depends on the personality and training of the therapist.
How a therapy session work also rests on the therapist
The idea is within sessions the therapist empowers you without judgment to take action in your own way by helping you to find your own answers. This at the same time teaches you self-discernment and to listen to your own values and needs.
The therapist does this by giving you their undivided attention and by providing you the time within the framework of the session to talk, cry, shout or just think. Having time to think is powerful as in those moments of silence is where you can get the most invaluable insights and realisations.
During the session, you also get the opportunity to look at what is happening in your life in a new and fresh way with someone who will respect you and your opinions. That is supportive and empowering when someone believes in you.
In addition, it also helps you pay attention to your mental well-being – how you think, how you react, how you trigger back into your default way of being. This way you learn when to ask for help when you feel things are getting out of hand and you are unable to ‘snap out of it’. You will find that you are able to bounce back more easily and quickly. That has been my experience making life enjoyable and no longer frightening.
Being in therapy is also a great place to be able to voice your issue at hand. You get to explore other options, ways of thinking and coping and how it may link to other areas of your life. It creates threads to support your healing and you develop invaluable skills to handle life challenges.
How long do you need to see a therapist?
How long is a piece of string? Sometimes you simply want a few sessions to help you sort out the confusion in your head. Other times it may be because something traumatic has happened to you that will take time to unravel.
I have found invariably that more ‘stuff’ keeps coming up that you may want to work through. It has for me time and time again. I keep clearing and growing, clearing and growing.
It can be frustrating when you can’t see or feel any change happening. And it feels like a waste of money and time. Two things with this are 1) it takes time for deep-seated symptoms to improve and 2) you may not be with the best therapist for you.
It takes courage to change therapists when you have already invested time and money. Talk with them first to see what can be resolved and base your decision on that. Stepping up and speaking out about your concerns with the therapist can be also part of your growth of saying what you need rather than holding back.
I have done this a couple of times. You should have seen me. I was so nervous, sweating, mumbling and jumbling up my words, feeling awkward and embarrassed. But I got there in the end.
Therapy is all about you, particularly person-centred therapy which is what I am trained in. It is about you being honest with yourself and the therapist. If you aren’t that can also hold you back from achieving what you want to achieve. The therapist doesn’t know what they don’t know
Therapy helps you love life with courage
Therapy has helped me develop new ways of thinking around my trauma. It no longer dictates my life the way it did. I have stopped looping, constantly revisiting and dramatising the events. And I have learnt how to break the associations and the hold that the trauma had over me. Relief!
In conclusion, my life is so different now to where it was. It has been hard work with many tears of pain, frustration, despair, and anger with initially only moments of joy, delight, relief, and light. Now that is all I see for the most part in both my personal and business life.
When you take care of your mental health it strengthens your ability to cope with everyday stressors. You learn how to handle challenges more effectively. What I have also found is I am more effective in my professional life. My attention span has increased dramatically. I can concentrate for longer periods of time and retain information that used to go in one ear and immediately out the other.
Lastly, I have gained energy and vital force to do the things I want to, not just those to simply survive (getting out of bed was an issue) with a big dose of excitement and joy.
I now love life with inner strength, courage, confidence and a sense of freedom and safety in a way I never expected to or dreamt of. Life is exciting and adventurous again. Some tools I have also added to therapy are meditation, mindfulness and tapping (EFT). These are great to learn not only between sessions but also when you feel you no longer need to see a therapist. Here are the links to my online meditation and tapping courses to get you on your way to supporting yourself.
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If you wish to see I can support you in your life, click here to make a time to have a 15-minute chat to see if we are the best fit for each other. It is important that we both feel comfortable, so you get to see and feel results. If I am not the best therapist for you, I will let you know.
Chantal Vanderhaeghen is an intuitive guide, small business owner, creator of an international skincare brand, passionate philanthropist and meditation, reiki, tapping and mindfulness teacher. She works with women ready to make changes, shatters perceptions of beauty and perfection, and inspires people ready to become mindful entrepreneurs. She lives with her talented man in the Perth Hills and can be found online at www.unfoldyoufreedom.com.au
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