How scary is that – voicing fears,not only that to someone else and then forgiving yourself to be free to love yourself. That happened to me just recently: me voicing one of mine and one being voiced to me. Sometimes that can be just as nerve wracking as doing something fearful. So what holds us back? And how do we overcome that fear to express our fears??!
It was actually very simple really, yet it took me ages to not only find the words, but to have expressed them out loud. Just do it. And what a relief that was when I did as my client found as well when she had her own ‘aha’ moment. It took so much of the intensity out of the emotion for both of us and now the ‘fear’ is manageable and put into perspective rather than immobilising.
Mind you, I was mindful with whom I shared this with – it made me feel safer this way to start with. It makes you feel raw and tender to share something so private. And the irony is that what is fearful for you is not to someone else. So that is another reason to be aware with whom you share your deepest fear as they might just not get it and you do not feel supported.
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By being able to express yourself I find using certain techniques, asking questions and then holding the space in quietness to allow the feelings to surface that had to be faced helped me put my fears into perspective. Simply put the process was acknowledge, accept and then finally let go. It did take a while and I had to step in and out a few times before I began to feel comfortable acknowledging it to myself as well as to someone else.
I ironically found jumping out the plane last year easier than voicing some of my deep-seated fears. And now that I have I wonder why I held on to them for so long. And this Buying Time Breast Cancer fundraiser has made me face a few more fears as I make myself visible approaching people for help and for their contribution on a far bigger scale. What if I get knocked back, seen as being pushy, being a pain? All illogical, but that is what fear is all about: false evidence appearing real. And so what if someone says ‘no’. It is not personal, yet we make it so. Why not see it as ‘face everything and rise’? And if you do not ask you do not get!!!!
bon courage in facing yours
Even that took me a bit to express to you. So bon courage in facing yours and freeing yourself. It takes strength and you can do it. It is so well worth the effort and pain.
Chantal Vanderhaeghen is an intuitive guide, small business owner, creator of an international skincare brand, passionate philanthropist and meditation, reiki, tapping and mindfulness teacher. She works with women ready to make changes, shatters perceptions of beauty and perfection, and inspires people ready to become mindful entrepreneurs. She lives with her talented man in the Perth Hills and can be found online at www.unfoldyoufreedom.com.au
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