Crying is vital to our mental wellbeing

Sometimes there’s nothing like a good cry to make you feel better. Crying shows you are human, not a robot. It is so not a sign of weakness, but a sign of courage and strength.

Rather than washing away your tears, allow them to awash you, because expressing how you feel through tears is healthy. They help you release emotions and create a wonderful sense of release as well as exhaustion, despite what you are going through.

Tears are shed out of grief, anger, joy, love, frustration, being touched by someone or something, watching a movie, having a tender moment.

In our society, we are taught to repress our tears, to hold them in as they are seen as a sign of weakness and on no account should you show how you are feeling, with or without reason.

‘Stiff upper lip’ comes to mind. ‘Girls are too emotional’.’ Boys don’t cry – be a man’. 

In fact, we are told not to show them is a sign of strength and being in control of our emotions. As a crier, I used to find this so hard. I felt so ashamed when I cried. I cry because I feel deeply. This then became a vicious cycle as I was told I was too emotional. To pull myself together. What will people think?

However, deep within I knew tears were healing as I used to feel so much better after a big cry. Did I feel exhausted, yes? Was I emotionally drained, absolutely? It was like a big bubble was always burst. The dam could flow, in fact, it could create a flood. A flood of crocodile tears, as my father used to say.

Tears are healthy

In addition, tears help lower stress levels by releasing oxytocin and endorphins. These chemicals make you feel good easing both physical and emotional pain in the long run.

Crying has the following benefits:

  • self-soothing effect as it regulates your emotions and feels relaxing
  • helps you heal and process your emotions
  • tears can release toxins and stress hormones creating a sense of calm
  • shedding emotional tears releases oxytocin and endorphins promoting a sense of well-being
  • tears can restore emotional equilibrium after a good healthy cry
  • brings people together creating closeness, empathy and connection

In conclusion, tears are a normal, healthy way to express emotion. Don’t ever hesitate to cry. Know it is part of life and of expressing how you are feeling. It is a courageous act and a sign of strength showing others that they, too, can cry.

Love you to share this with anyone you think would benefit from these ideas. And leave a comment with your thoughts. As there is always more we can learn from each other.

If you would like to know more about how I can support you in expressing your feelings without shame and feeling judged, click here to book a 15-minute clarity call to find the best way I can walk alongside you.

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Chantal Vanderhaeghen is an intuitive guide, small business owner, creator of an international skincare brand, passionate philanthropist and meditation, reiki, tapping and mindfulness teacher. She works with women ready to make changes, shatters perceptions of beauty and perfection, and inspires people ready to become mindful entrepreneurs. She lives with her talented man in the Perth Hills and can be found online at



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